UPDATED | Female Wet Dreams: Islamic Perspectives & Regulations
Therefore, if a girl/woman sees a wet dream, it does not mean that she is sexually perverted, lewd or immodest in any sense. It is out of her control, especially for younger girls who may be experiencing many hormonal changes in their bodies. In fact, the Shariah itself recognizes wet dreams as a sign of puberty.
For all my female followers who are unsure if they’ve had a wet dream or not (and are therefore unsure if they should make ghusl or not), this is for you inshaa Allah:
To conclude, since the female wet dream may or may not be accompanied by a discharge, contrary to that of men, I posed a few questions to the Shuyūkh based on the discussion I had with other women and I received following answers from Sh. Yasir Qadhi:
These answers are by Sh. Yasir Qadhi:
To be honest we rarely find such DETAILED discussion in fiqh books, most likely because men are not as familiar with this topic as they should be. However, based on the hadith of the Prophet, sallallahu alihi wasalam, I would say that:
Question: If a woman sees a sexual dream but is confused whether she had an orgasm or not, what should she do? (Please keep in mind that female genital area is always wet, and they do not necessarily always have extra discharge upon orgasm, so the matter is not as easy to discriminate as for men)
Answer: The ‘asl (original) is that she has not had a wet dream, so until there is yaqin(certainty) she does not have to take a bath. Therefore, if she does not remember an orgasm, and her private area is not extra wet, she doesn’t have to do ghusl (bath).
Question: If she sees extra vaginal discharge but is sure that she didn’t have any dream of sexual nature at all?
Answer: Vaginal discharge does not necessitate ghusl, no problems here.
Question: If she sees extra vaginal discharge and is confused about the dream (i.e. vaguely recalls something but is not sure either), again keeping in mind that extra vaginal discharge could be completely hormonal or due to the normal menstrual cycle?
Answer: She must have yaqin (certainty) or at least a very strong presumption that she’s had a wet dream (which includes an orgasm).
Q:Alsalamu 3alaykom..i know its haram for a husband & wife to have intercourse while she is on her period, but is it permissible to have intercourse after she has finished but hasnt done her ghusl yet (all on the same day)? For example she finishes her period after isha has intercourse then does ghusl altogether? JazakAllah kheir
Anonymous
wa alaikum us salaam wa rahmatullah,
The answer you seek is actually in the Qur’an itself:
Q:Salam! Question about your period: does brown blood mean your period has ended and you could pray? I mean that it doesn't flow, nothing on pad, but it's brownish-pink when you wipe after use of the bathroom.
Q:Asalaamualaikum waramatulah wa barakatuhu..I have a question about ghusl..I find that I am missing namaz because my husband and I have sex so frequently that to have a whole shower every time I need to pray is exhausting, and quite frankly, wasting water. I don't want to turn him away, because I do enjoy it, as well. Is there any 'short-cut' ghusl, where I wouldn't have to have an entire shower, just wash my private areas with water quickly, or something along those lines? JazakAllahKhair
Anonymous
wa alaikum us salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu wa maghfiratu,
You don’t have to take a complete “shower” as we think of it nowadays.
To make it shorter:
1) wash your privates and any other place that is unclean
2) make intention to make ghusl
3) stand under the shower until everything is wet (down to the roots of your hair to the bottom of your feet)
4) rinse your mouth and nose
5) get out and dry off
6) say your shahada
You don’t have to use any soap, you don’t have to stay under for any period of time. I mean of course please use soap at least once a day but soap is not at all required for wudhu or ghusl, so if you’re making multiple showers in a day there’s no need to use soaps and shampoos and conditions and all of that.
Oh and also, if your hair is long enough leave it in a braid/braids. You don’t have to undo your braids to make ghusl, and that should make the shower shorter as well as you just need to focus on your scalp and not the entire braid.
Q:Salam Alaikum Sister, How nice of you to run a blog where you answer questions on islam.. May Allah Reward you. I just want to point out the way u answered one of them, on ghusl, i sincerely do not agree with that for i believe there are steps taken not just under running or still water where you 'rinse' your body.. pls check this out again. JazakAllah Khairan. :)
Anonymous
wa alaikum us salaam wa rahmatullah,
Waiyyakum
Many scholars say that ghusl is acceptable by completely immersing the entire body under running water (some require the impurity to be removed before making the intention to make ghusl, but the entire process can be done in the same shower without needing to turn it off or exit the shower and enter again):
http://islamqa.info/en/ref/83172
http://spa.qibla.com/issue_view.asp?HD=3&ID=13209&CATE=369 (Shafi’i)
http://spa.qibla.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=2137&CATE=129 (Hanafi)
http://seekersguidance.org/ans-blog/2009/08/27/questions-related-to-the-ritual-bath-ghusl/ (Hanafi - Faraz Rabbani)
This is also the opinion of Shaykh Waleed Basyouni, Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal, Imam Shafi’i, and Imam Abu Hanifa.
The only opinion I know that requires more than just immersing yourself under a body of water is that of Imam Malik, who states that one must also rub the limbs with a hand or with a clean object in order for ghusl to be complete.
Another thing to note is that some scholars include rinsing the mouth and nose as part of immersing the entire body with water. If you follow a particular school of fiqh, find out what your school says about the nose and mouth. Otherwise, it is certainly better to rinse the nose and mouth while taking ghusl.
