Q:Salam I know you're not a mufti or anything but if you could just answer this question if you are aware it would be very helpful. Tried looking for an answer through some sources but came across strange responses. Is it permissible for a woman to get her body parts waxed by another woman?
It is generally accepted that a woman’s awrah in front of other women is from the navel to the knee:
The part of the body which is considered Awra must not be exposed even in front of Muslim women. A female’s Awra in front of other Muslim women is the same to a man’s Awra from other men, which is from the navel up to and including the knees. (Hidaya, 4/461 & Radd al-Muhtar, 6/371)
Obviously medical necessity, etc. would be factored in, but this isn’t considered necessity. If you have any other questions related to this topic, try asking tmihijabi, as she knows more than I do about these subjects.
as salaam alaikum,
Dr. Ali Gomaa, the previous Grand Mufti of Egypt, stated in a fatwa that it is permissible to have her privates/legs waxed by another woman (professional) if a woman is married.
Also there is a fatwa from Aisha Umm al Mu’mineen (ra) that a woman should remove hairs that her husband might find disturbing, such as a moustache or chin hairs. Allahu alem if this would fall under that ruling, but I just wanted to put that out there.
Not going to excess in the deen
Whenever Muslims tell me I must be super strict with my Islamic practice (deen) or risk “ruining my imaan”, I think of this quote by Aisha Bewley:
[A]voiding legalisms also extends to not going to excess in the Deen. It is not necessarily true that a if a little of something is good, a lot of it is much better. That is every important as is evidenced in this: “Malik was asked about a man who assumed ihram before the miqat and he said, “I fear fitna for him,” and he said, “Allah Almighty says, 'Let those who oppose His command beware lest a fitna befall them.’" The asker said, "What fitna is that? It is only increase in obeying Allah Almighty.” Malik said, “And what fitna is greater than that you suppose than you are singled out for an action which the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, did not do?”
In other words, you are making yourself the arbiter of what is right and what is wrong, and so you are making yourself greater than the Prophet and the Companions.
The other day, I read an article about hijab where a woman was chastising other women for wearing abayas with sleeves that are too tight to make proper wudhu.
Islam is the religion of ease. There’s no reason to berate someone because their sleeves are too narrow - there are other solutions:
Yahya related to me from Malik from Ibn Shihab from ‘Abbad ibn Ziyad, a descendant of al-Mughira ibn Shu’ba from his father from al-Mughira ibn Shu’ba that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, went to relieve himself during the expedition of Tabuk. Mughira said, “I went with him, taking water. Then the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, came back and I poured out the water for him. He washed his hands and then went to push his arms out of the sleeves of his garment, but could not do so because of their narrowness. So he brought them out from underneath his garment….. [Imam Maalik’s Muwatta]
We make things too complicated, wallahi.
I’m sick and I fear making ghusl because of this….
Salam sister, I hope this message finds you in the best health and Iman. Where I reside the weather is frigid cold. I took a shower several days ago an got sick (some form of a cold) My period ended this morning so I have to make gusul. I was wondering, because I know I’ll get even more sick if I shower now can do gusul at night (that way I’m not doing any errands outside any more…
I’m at a tea and there’s a handful of young Muslimahs here.
Alhamdulillah I don’t post photos of myself here, because it would certainly make for awkward conversation if everyone found out I’m the “tampons and hymens aunty”.